Saturday, May 26, 2007

Procrastination Book

Jim Rohn once commented that all the books we need to succeed in any life endeavor has been written. I would want to concur with that. Although we still have rooms for more creative styles, in-depth niche exploration, all the resources we need to get us motivated, for specialized knowledge are available. The question is which writing style best suits or motivate me? There are some authors I prefer over others.

Some of my best authors are Jim Rohn, Phillip McGraw, Robert Kiyosaki, Robert G. Allen and a host of other inspiring authors. Some of these authors you may not like. Some others you would. It depends on your reading and analytical approach, if the author can please these areas, he's got a winner.

There are numerous books available out there on Procrastination; its causes, effects and possible solution. Some are winners, some are just there. What you need is a winning book. A winning book will contain some of the tips on overcoming Procrastination.

  • Do unpleasant task first and forget about them.
  • If a task seems mighty or not inviting, the truth is that you've got to do them and avert some problems in the future – break them down into small steps and tackle them bit by bit.
  • Get a deadline for all your projects. Make them realistic so you do not get frustrated when you cannot meet too ambitious goals. There is a kind of urgency attached with a task when a deadline is added.
  • Delegate tasks if you have to. Nobody told you that the most successful individuals did it all by themselves.
  • Disregard protocols – sometimes, you just have to get started on something – you can start anyhow so you gather enough momentum to continue, when you feel motivated, you can follow orders.
  • Change your perception, change our attitude! Because you can easily lie to your subconscious and can deceive it, you become your own worst enemy. Whatever you tell your subconscious is what it acts. You can tell a wrong perception about a task to your subconscious and it will say – yes boss, that's exactly what it is. So why not tell it some good, change your attitude and your thinking about that task – tell it to your subconscious and watch it say – yes boss, that's what it is and we can do it now!
  • Now, consider the effects of putting off a task, of not being responsible, of not being in total control, of not making that call, of not checking on the dentist or the doctor, of not trying to loose some weight, quit smoking, being the market leader, being the best you can be.

If you are a perfectionist like I used to be, you'd have to understand that first, human nature is imperfect. I actually put off starting a web business two years ago because I wanted to get it right the first time. Now all around the web, I see my ideas littering without a dent of perfection. Folks, they are recking in millions yearly! And I am sited here, watching and waiting till I get it right the first time – who's loosing? I am the fool who's regretting all the way. Now I said to myself, the information you have is enough to get you started on something, just go ahead – you'll discover more as you progress.

That's how I got started. It was out of necessity anyway. I was hungry and needed to feed my stomach and there was no supports – so – just get started! Right Now! Check here for more on a complete idiot guide for overcoming procrastination – www.procrastinationstop.blogspot.com . Please start this minute. I am on my knees for you. I cannot wait for you to launch that million dollar idea for the benefit of mankind, to reconcile with that old friend, to save yourself ten more years if you quit smoking now, to look sexier if you fight obesity now, to check on your tooth with your doctor or whatever.

There are hundreds, thousands and even millions of excuses you may give to procrastinate on whatever task you have to do, well its definitely to your personal detriment, excuses will always be there. Get started now! And save your future, your spouse, your children, your job, your health, your life! If you wish to find a winning book on Procrastination, and why wouldn't you want to, visit my blogsite.

That's it on Procrastination book, for more on a complete idiot guide to overcoming procrastination, see www.procrastinationstop.blogspot.com .

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Wednesday, May 23, 2007

Finding the Real You

Where do you begin the search? It almost seems like a joke. To many, it is the real meaning of life.

Over many years I've read many books on psychology. At one point in my life I even considered a career in psychology. Then, ten years ago I read a book on Neuro-Linguistic Programming, NLP.

No! I'm not going to expound on NLP. NLP was designed as a clinical process. It is a model used to treat clients in need of solutions to problems. Too many people have forgotten that.

But the relevant idea of NLP is that you are ultimately responsible for all your actions. If you are to learn about yourself you must focus on YOUR thoughts, reactions and responses to events around you.

How you treat the information you receive is as important as the messages you allow to filter through. What you focus on, what is important to you in any situation will determine what and how you think.

If you have read this far you are already demonstrating who you are. You are an inquisitive, imaginative person in search of self. You are asking, "Who am I and why do I feel the way I do?". And, the first step to understanding is to have questions in search of answers.

Where else can you being to 'Find the Real You' but within yourself?

As a child I was very shy and reserved. My parents were too critical of my efforts and constantly compared me to my older sibling who was a year ahead of me. She was better at drawing, she was better at writing, she did better at school. This has marked my childhood and my thinking now.

With time I have learned that I am very capable and caring adult. My experiences in every aspect of my life have shown that I am good at many things. Together with my wife, I have raised three very successful boys. I have had a very successful programming career. Yet, I still felt this was not enough.

Then I read NLP. NLP taught me that I must evaluate how I think about what I experience. Their model is simply a suggestion from which you can start to learn about yourself.

If you focus on problems, then your life will seem like nothing but a series of problems. If you focus on solutions and how you successfully solve the problems, you are getting closing to feeling successful.

But if you see problems simply as challenging experiences and see yourself successfully living through the challenges, then you will be closer to understanding yourself.

Life is about experience. And learning how you feel about the journey will help you to understand and love the person you are.

Your particular experience has taught you to focus on certain things. In your relationship with others you might focus on how people behave differently from your idea, your ideal of behavior. You are judging others based on your model of the world.

Allowing others to behave they way they want to is a beginning to understanding self. Challenge your beliefs. Instead of judging others, become aware of how you think, what your reasons and ideas are, what your beliefs are about how others behave.

Then, instead of assigning one motive to another's behavior, think of at least three reasons why the other person might behave in a certain way.

And, if you can do this while thinking about someone else, then also look at your reasons for behaving, thinking, believing in a certain way. When you are about to respond to someone else, think of at least three ways you can actually behave or speak.

Instead of getting angry or upset at someone for what they say, make a joke of it, or direct there attention somewhere else, or tell them a story with a moral punch line. There are many more ways to respond than in anger.

To begin the journey to Self Awareness start by thinking about how you respond to life in everyday life. Take responsibility for all your behavior, including how you think.

The search for meaning begins within your own mind.

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Monday, May 21, 2007

How Families With Children Are Enjoying Vacation Ownership And Timeshare - The Kids Have More Room

Depending on your family budget, you can rent whatever type of vacation accommodations you can afford and desire. You have lots of choices, but if you're on tight budget, and you rent a hotel room, the chances are you're not going to have to much space . If the children are sleeping the next bed over, it's not a much fun for the adults on the trip.

If stress on a vacation from over-crowded rooms, to lack of privacy, to having to eat out every meal and buy lots of beverages and snacks at the stores because you don't have a refrigerator in your room cause you so much stress that you'd rather stay at home than attempt a vacation, you should consider the possibilities of the vacation ownership or timeshare lifestyle with luxury condominiums to vacation in with full-amenities. You should seriously consider vacation ownership for your money and pleasures instead of renting hotel rooms every trip.

The rates in hotels have gone up over the years and we're not getting a message that price increases or inflation will be going away any time soon. This means that the future trips will cost more and won't make you any happier just more broke.

Consider vacation ownership with large accommodations, such a complete kitchens with refrigerator, microwave, all the pots, pans, plates, and utensils to fit your family, dishwasher, washer-dryers, separate or multiple bedrooms, and more square footage of space to spread out than your average hotel room will provide. Think of vacation ownership and timeshare as offering a way to recycle your vacation dollars not throw them out with every vacation.

Another feature that families love when they travel is the ability to have multiple television sets in their vacation condos and often vcr or dvd players so they can watch movies or allow the family to play video type games. If your vacation ownership or timeshare properties have more than one television set or dvd per unit, then the various family members can enjoy different forms of entertainment all at the same time without the typical conflicts of a one-television hotel room.

Families should also ask about any possible programs with activities for children and family members. Children like to stay occupied and entertained and the more they do, the more money parents usually have to spend. If activities and facilities are provided this cuts costs and improves the fun experiences.

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Saturday, May 19, 2007

Having A Timeshare In Palm Springs

Palm Springs is a wonderful location to enjoy a relaxing vacation. You can save a great deal of money if you invest in a timeshare there. This will allow you to enjoy the sun and the water each year. Palm Springs isn't just a vacation location for the rich, moderate families are coming here on a regular basis. This is just one of the many reasons for considering Palm Springs as one of the most ideal vacation spot in California.

If you are looking for a timeshare then see what Palm Springs has to offer you. Some of the very best golf courses are located in Palm Springs so you can challenge yourself with them. Recreational golfers and pros love the courses available. In fact, many people who golf in Palm Springs find it to be the very best golfing location they have ever tried. Add to this the beautiful nearby desert and the mountains and you have a place that is amazing by all definitions.

Palm Springs is also a great place to pamper yourself while relaxing. There are luxurious day spas offering wraps, massages, facials, manicures, pedicures, and anything else you can dream of. You will feel like royalty during these procedures. The great think about all this is that its not as expensive as one may think.

A timeshare in Palm Springs is the perfect way to be able to enjoy the different activities there for years to come. If you enjoy golf, relaxing in the sun, playing in the water, sweeping views of the mountains and valleys, or getting various relaxing treatments then you will always look forward to your vacation in Palm Springs. Palm Springs is certainly the place that should be on the top of your list for a relaxing vacation where you can enjoy alone or with your family.

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Thursday, May 17, 2007

Invest In Your Vacation With A Timeshare

A timeshare allows you to invest in property that is owned by many different people. The accommodations are located in prime vacation spots all over the world. It can be a condo, hotel, cabin, recreational vehicle, houseboat, or any other location. There are many timeshares for most anytime of accommodation and any vacation spot you may be interested in. Some experts think a timeshare is a poor financial investment but the reality is that most of the timeshares increase in value each year. They are becoming a very popular part of the vacation industry just because of how expensive traveling has become.

Many people enjoy timeshares because they offer a great deal of flexibility. You can buy one for any location and you have the option to trade your timeshare with someone who owns one in another location. This is great for being able to experience a vacation in a new location without incurring the expense of paying for a hotel or resort.

Investments in timeshares are on the rise and you shouldn't pay attention to the reports that claim they drop in value over time. It is a great way to be able to afford to travel more often due to saving money on your accommodations. You also get the benefit of being able to stay in more luxurious accommodations than you would otherwise be able to. Don't expect the concept of timeshares to be eliminated anytime soon as they offer millions of travelers exactly what they need.

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Saturday, May 5, 2007

Am I An Alcoholic?

For much of my adult life, about 15 years, I asked myself this question a lot. Almost every morning, when I was taking a shower, this question would cross my mind. Then I would quickly dismiss it, because I was sure that drinking didn't really interfere with my life. After all, I never missed or was even late for work, and as far as the world was concerned, I handled my business and was fairly successful. Yet almost every morning the question would cross my mind, "Am I an alcoholic?"

I'm still not sure what an alcoholic actually is, and really don't care. All I was aware of was that I woke up almost everyday with some manifestation of a hangover. In fact this happened so often that it became completely normal to me. All I knew for sure was that I drank too much. Even though I went to work everyday and did a good job, but I also knew that I drank too much. How much is too much? I didn't keep a running tally of my consumption, but it had to average a 12-pack of beer a day. Some days more, some days less, but the average had to be 12 a day.

My life had gotten to the point that it more or less revolved around beer. Did I wake up in the morning and pop the top? No, but after work was done, I drank. On my days off, I drank. My free time was spent drinking beer and BSing with friends. I mean, why not? It's what everyone did right? Then I woke up one day and I was 15 years older. How did this happen, I thought to myself.

So I stopped drinking. I don't even know if I was an alcoholic, and don't really care. The truth was that I drank entirely too much and I felt like I needed to take my life in a different direction. It has ended up being the best decision that I've ever made. So, if you ever ask yourself the question, "Am I an alcoholic?", answer it sooner rather than later, so that you don't wake up one day and realize like I did that 15 years have passed.

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Tuesday, May 1, 2007

Selfishness - Is It Okay To Be Selfish?

When you hear the word selfishness what do you think? What kind of picture comes to mind of a person who is selfish? Does this word have negative connotations for you? Where do you think this negativity came from? Did someone in your life tell you that it was wrong to be selfish? Were you punished when others perceived your behavior as being selfish?

Selfishness in fact is a healthy state of being. Thomas Leonard, founder of Coachville, says that "selfishness means you care enough about yourself to get your needs met; selfishness is a choice". Still conjuring up negative visions for a selfish person? Or do you wish the word "selfish" defined your state of being?

So how do we change our perception of selfishness? How do we allow ourselves to be selfish without the guilt? Can we actually give more to others by being selfish? Let's delve into these questions and see if you can give yourself permission to be a little more selfish.

First, let's take a look at the definition; caring enough about yourself to get your needs met. First let me ask you, do you have any idea what your needs are? This is a key issue. If you do not know what you need to be happy, how can you get those needs met? This is an important concept and the only way to find this out is to take the time to check in with yourself and see if you are happy with the way your life is. What answer did you find? Was your answer, "I don't have any free time to do this assessment". Well it's time to get selfish. First item on your list should be carving out time for me.

After you have determined what your needs are the next critical step is "believing" that you matter enough to get your needs met. There are three pivotal issues here: 1) Say No; 2) Be the Teacher; 3) Fill up.

Say No – this is important, especially if you identified with the issue above, not having enough time to check in with yourself to determine what your needs are. The reason you are so swamped for time may be because you are living your life to please others. It's time to stop being a people pleaser and start pleasing you. So next time before you say yes to another commitment, ask yourself, am I really excited about doing this or am I doing this because others think I should. Exercise your right to say "no".

Be the teacher – Dr. Phil says, "we teach people how to treat us". On your journey to selfishness you need to be the teacher and teach others what to expect from you. Up to this point people expected certain behaviors from you, because you have taught them to expect them. As you begin to honor yourself on your journey toward selfishness, make sure you share with others what you need. For example, if you need some alone time, but have never allowed yourself to do that, you will need to articulate this to those who expect you to be available. They may be a bit upset about this, and call you selfish, because in the past you taught them that you did not value your "own" time, now you must re-teach them to honor your "me" time. Stand strong; believe that you matter enough to have your needs met. Eventually, they will adjust and embrace the new you.

Fill up – if you have issues with being selfish you may believe that it is better to give then to receive. This may be true as long as you have something to give, however if you continue to give but never take the time to fill up the gift box eventually you will run out of gifts to give. Being selfish allows you to refill the box so you have many more gifts to give to others for a very long time. Make the commit to fill up your gift box.

Hopefully you have a clearer picture about what it means to be selfish. With any luck you will be able to embrace selfishness without all the negativity and guilt; realizing that selfishness helps you be more giving to others.

If you are struggling with being a people pleaser, wishing you had more time to get to know what your needs are and want to learn how to be more selfish, then I encourage you to hire a coach to help you see selfishness in a new light. Feel free to contact me for a free sample session.

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